Belonging!

Buying a house is as important, if not more, than having a child, the world seems to think. I have been asked of my intentions of buying a house so many more times than about when I would have a child. In the beginning I was enthusiastic about wanting a house of my own, now a few years into marriage and with one child I don’t see the need to buy one pronto. Infact, I might never see the point at all. Yes, you get a tax break, yes, you have an asset in your name, yes, it is...

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Diwali & Dussehra Mela 2013

Durga Puja Details in Gurgaon Durgotsav 2013 at Palam Vihar, Gurgaon http://gurgaonkalibari.in/invitation_card.html Durgotsav 2013 at South City II – http://www.dgpc.in/Members.asp Durga Puja at Sector 10A – http://durgapuja10aggn.org/ Durgotsav 2013 with Bangiya Parishad, Gurgaon at HUDA Grounds, Sec 56, Gurgaon (Opp More departmental stores / Apollo clinic) – https://www.facebook.com/events/417063925066073/ Sushant Estate Durgotsav Committee, Sector 52 – http://www.sushantestatedurgotsavcommittee.org/home/index.php/cultural-events [Calendar for 2013 not available on the website] DLF City Durga Puja and Bengali Cultural Society, DLF Phase-I – http://www.banglarparampara.org/ [Calendar for 2013 not available on the website] Play Dandiya in Gurgaon Venue Date & Time Zorba The Budha Contact: Email: prabhaavfoundation@gmail.com  Phone: 9891201249, 9818003135, 011-41036265 Oct 11 – Oct 13 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm Raas – Rendezvous Contact: 9818136085 Oct 8th 10:30 am – 1:30 pm The Belaire   Oct 19th Uniworld Gardens   Oct 12th City Club Phase 4 Oct 12th DLF Residents' Diwali Mela, Kachnar Marg, near Silver Oaks Appts, Gurgaon-Faridabad Road Oct 20th 8:30 – 10:00 pm   Diwali & Dusshera Melas Venue Date & Time Contact/More Information GurgaonMoms' Members' Stall Details The Icon, DLF Phase 5, gurgaon Oct 12th 4:00 pm – 8:30 pm icongurgaon@gmail.com https://www.facebook.com/events/621820711173944/   Corporate Diwali Carnival, DLF Cyber City Oct 23rd – 25th 98719 31155 / Pitaara https://www.facebook.com/events/547439128643797/     Club Patio, Nirvana Oct 14 5:00 pm – 10 pm Email – buzzouq.ra@gmail.com M – 9899144164   Epicentre Grand Diwali Oct 18th – 20th Aditi Chauhan @ 9810059550 / 9990303802     South Point...

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My Yummy Mummy Guide – Book Launch

Fortis Mamma Mia invited Karisma Kapoor as well as well known Consultant Nutrisionist Ishi Khosla to launch the new book " my Yummy Mummy guide". Authored by Karisma Kapoor this tells the Indian aspect of Conception, Pregnancy and all the myths surrounded by it.  The book is co authored by Madhuri Banerjee. Karisma gives useful and practical tips on how to lose post baby weight.That is but evident in how svelte she looks. Many suggestions on how to deal with the stress and how to work on the guilt that every mom feels.    Raising children as well as handling a career that too a film one is no mean task. Karisma said that she makes a regular old fashioned paper and pen list every day of what needs to be done.    She also claimed to be part Tiger as well as helicopter and a submarine Mom. She says everyday is a learning experience.    I had the opportunity to introduce our forum " GurgaonMoms " and ask her  this question: "What would be one piece of advice you would give to our Moms regardless of thier age etc?"   Karisma Kapoor replied " Just trust your own instincts.They are the most reliable for your kids."    The discussion included the pressures felt by mothers today to get back in shape, resume careers as well as play a successful...

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Klay Prep School & Day Care Center – Gurgaon

“IF I CAN’T LEARN THE WAY YOU TEACH ME, THEN TEACH ME THE WAY I CAN LEARN” Klay – a chain of high end and high quality preparatory school and day care centre across Bangalore, Ahmedabad, Guntur, Noida and Gurgaon. Klay is the brain child of experienced educationist, teachers and education leaders with extensive experience in early learning pedagogy, methods and set up. KLAY Philosophy Kids, Learning and You- KLAY, the name says a lot about our philosophy. We believe the three important pillars in a young child’s life at this stage are the father, mother and the teachers – a child is learning largely from their immediate environment – an environment they feel safe and secure Apart from a high quality preparatory schooling program, KLAY also has extremely safe, healthy and learning based day care program across our centers. Our teaching and learning philosophy is based on Multiple Intelligence and experiential learning where the child learns through experiences in and around one’s learning space. Growing With Klay All children coming into school every morning come with varied moods. The teachers plan fun and engaging sessions for the children, with new activities every day. What a lovely way to start a day at school ! Sitting in a group for Circle time on everyday basis, which involves learning about the calendar, weather, emotions, and then the concept of the week. The children...

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And The Mountains Echoed – Khaled Hosseini

The Book Reporter, our in-house guide to what makes for an interesting read, reviews Hosseini's latest bestseller, And the Mountains Echoed.    Khaled Hosseini is a brilliant author. I was hooked from the first few pages. His characterization is vivid and his storytelling skills are par excellence!! This is a story of love and how it has the power to affect lives over many generations. It teaches us deep gratitude for the simplest things we have. Hosseini has this ability to tell stories like none other. For days after reading this I had the characters in my mind.    Yes Afghani references are many, but not as heart wrenching as his other books. If you've liked his previous work you're sure to love this!! Hope you enjoy it as much as I did.   Leaving you with a beautiful quote from the book:    “They say, find a purpose in your life and live it. But, sometimes, it is only after you have lived that you recognize your life had a purpose, and likely one you never had in...

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Woman Of The Month – October 2013

In conversation with Aparna Santhanam, a woman who wears many hats – a sucessful author, dermatologist, mother, wife, and an ardent supporter of social causes. We spoke to Aparna on life after a baby, family holidays, food, and more….. 1. Has Mommyhood changed you? If yes, how? I think becoming a Mother has been the most defining moment of my life.Everything else  in life is on one side and Mommyhood is on the other side.To me,it is the only unselfish and  unconditional relationship in life where you never think about what you are getting back.   2. One ‘aww’ moment/incident with your child When my daughter was nine years old,she was asked to write about a famous figure who truly  inspires her.So,naturally I expected she would write about some musician ,politician or some  other famous person.She wrote her composition on me and said that “My mother is a very good  doctor who is going to be famous!”It was not just an aww moment but has often served as an  inspiration to me. 3. One getting on the nerve moment/incident with your child When Sharanya was about seven,she stopped being amenable to suggestions about oiling her  hair.I remember,one Sunday morning,she screaming and running around the room,while I  chased her with a coconut oil bottle and finally giving up in frustration and flinging the bottle! 4. Favourite Family food with recipe  This...

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Dengue and Remedies

Dr. Parul Maheshwari Sharma of Max Hospital alerts "Friends,Dengue outbreak is at peak like every year,post monsoon.Hospitals r overflowing with no bed availability. PREVENTION,sp for our children: *Empty stagnant water at home.*To prevent mosquito bites,wear long pants and long sleeves.*Use mosquito repellent cream,patch or sprays * Limit exposure by staying indoors two hours after sunrise and before sunset-high incidence time for aedes mosquito bite" Another mom was kind enough to share the following symptoms and alert other moms "Thought will post…my daughter had 104 fever for the first two days, no fever for the next two days and then fluctuated between no fever and barely 99. No other symptoms… no rash, no spots, no vomitting, no body ache, no weakness …nothing. Even with no fever just as a precaution got her tested on the 6th day and she has tested positive for Dengue. So mums in this season don't take "barely any fever" lightly." Papaya juice is believed to be very effective in bringing up the platelet count. However there is no medical proof to suuport this belief. Please find below the method to prepare Papaya Juice Aparna Kunal Jain shared a herbal medicinal remedy [*not doctor’s recommendation] for Dengue which someone tried personally and found effective. 1. Get “Galoi” plant from a nursery – break its stem into small pieces. Also, cut some leaves from the plant 2. Mix them...

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Sacred Saturday Ritual

    My Saturday brunches used to be something to look forward to all week. However hectic the work week was, Saturday was for friends, when I would get up late in the morning, dress up in my latest buy, and reach flavors, or even T.G.I.F. at times to start our spirited three hour tradition of trashing people amidst food, tears, and laughter. I had forgotten all about it after marriage (obviously) but a few days back I reunited with one of my favorite gals who had just shifted back to Gurgaon from New Jersey and was missing her gang of girls and more specifically her Saturday outing. She was actually in tears while talking about it. I was starting to snigger at the ridiculous thought of getting out of the house on a Saturday. Saturdays are the days when the hubby is at home and there is no school for your child and the cook comes late and the weekly visit of the gardener, car cleaner happens! In short, Saturdays are extremely hectic and I was just giving her an earful about all this when I had a flashback. Those carefree days of killing time, moving from one café to another, or just loitering in the mall, checking out people, and forgetting life’s all stupid worries, I got teary eyed too.       There is a reason...

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Getting a Driving License in Gurgaon

DRIVING LICENCE….in GURGAON IMPORTANT to NOTE….. Carry 3 Address PROOFS (IF you don’t have 3 in your name then you can attach your husband’s too…take extra copies in case you meet someone fussy) Getting it Shifted from another City was more complicated and Time consuming. NOC’s are a problem. Fees can change, Carry Extra. The Counters and their locations may change but are always in nearby rooms. Refresh Your ROAD Signs/Regulations Info before the driving Test ! Procedure to get a driving licence made in Gurgaon: 1. Carry along: A pen, Glue, Stapler, Two passport-size photographs, Proof of date...

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Dengue – Facts & Cautions

Q.  What is dengue fever? Dr Siddhesh Pandey:  Dengue fever is a disease caused by a family of viruses that are transmitted by mosquitoes. It is an acute illness of sudden onset that usually follows a benign course with symptoms such as headache, fever, exhaustion, severe muscle and joint pain, swollen glands (lymphadenopathy), and rash. Dengue hemorrhagic fever is a more severe form of the viral illness. Symptoms include headache, fever, rash, and evidence of hemorrhage in the body. Petechia (small red or purple splotches or blisters under the skin), bleeding in the nose or gums, black stools, or easy bruising is all possible signs of hemorrhage. This form of dengue fever can be life-threatening and can progress to the most severe form of the illness, dengue shock syndrome. Q. What are the symptoms I should watch out for? Dr Siddhesh Pandey:  Dengue fever is just like any other high grade fever with body aches, headaches, pain behind eyes, nausea, and vomiting and body rash. The rashes are itchy and usually appear after three to four days of fever onset or after cessation of fever. Onset of following three symptoms: abdominal pain, profuse vomiting and difficulty in breathing/shortness of breath- in a case of dengue fever may suggest onset of complications of dengue fever and warrants urgent medical attention. Q. Can I be infected with dengue twice in my lifetime? Dr Siddhesh Pandey:  Yes, you may.  There are 4 subtypes of dengue...

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Open letter to Mothers-In-Law

To, All mothers-in-law, World over.   From, A daughter-in-law   Dear Mothers-in-law, Enough and more has been written and said about mothers-in-law, movies, especially the ones made in India, portray your tribe to be evil, scheming, conniving, and outright deceitful. I would like to think otherwise. You have raised such a wonderful man in your son, so I would like to believe that deep down you are as wonderful as wonderful can be. Change is the only constant. If every mother-in-law remembers this, what a wonderful world it could be out there. Yes, your son was very fond of that dish you used to make for him, but he isn’t its biggest fan today. Yes, your son hated eating that vegetable, but maybe, just maybe he likes the way I make it. Yes, your son loved his bed coffee, but there are other things that occupy his mornings now.  Yes, the middle hair parting suited your son when he was 11 years old, but he is triple that age now, and no, the middle parting is not cool. Yes, your son loved potatoes deep fried and soaking in oil, but the rising cholesterol levels tell a different tale. Yes, your son loved to sleep through his Sundays, but other responsibilities beckon him now. Yes, your son loved the comedy genre of movies, but he also enjoys some heavy duty...

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Kids say the darndest things – Sept 2013

Kids never cease to amaze us. We bring to you a series called 'Kids say the dardnest things'. This segment has all the makings of a blockbuster movie. It could leave you laughing, amazed, and sometimes even plain shocked. This week we feature the kids of Jayanti Pandey and Shravani Bagchi. Jayanti Pandey says, "It was our anniversary a few weeks ago and it being a working day, middle of the week , we had not planned on going out/doing a party etc. I asked my daughter if she wanted us to do something special and she said, " Mom, I want nothing. But tonight when you sleep, I want you and Papa to hold hands while sleeping……"   We were amazed and touched by her perspicacity and her connect with the non-material things at still a very young age….     Shravani Bagchi-Chowdhury says, " Arnav, then 6, was overheard telling his friend when he said that I should know Michael Jackson…"My Mamma doesn't know anything cool.  She grew up when there were just 2 channels on TV – can you imagine?!"   Did your kid just say the darndest thing? Mail us immediately at vidya@gurgaonmoms.com. ...

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My Kitchen Queen – My Grinder – For the perfect Idlis and Dosas

If your family likes Idli / Dosa this one is a must have. I’m not a great cook, but would surely love to serve fresh healthy food for my family. No matter what or where, my 6 year old loves Dosas to Pizzas anyday. And for good idlis and dosas a grinder is a must have. It is much more tastier and healthier to make your own batter than buying it from the shop. I would strongly recommend the Ultra Grind 1.25 litres, its small, compact, portable and does a wonderful job. Idlis and Dosas just taste perfect. At  Rs. 7000 it is a worthy investment for your kitchen. It’s low maintenance and last many years. Ingredients and Proportions for the batter : ( I use the same batter for idli and Dosa) Idli Rice : 4 cups ( available at South Indian Stores/ needs / spencers) Whole urad dal : 1 cup ( not broken, pealed, white whole urad dal) Methi seeds : 1 tsp Poha : 1 cup Wash and soak methi, urad dal and rice separately, for 4-7 hours or overnight depending on climate. Soak poha just for one hour. Grind  the urad dal and methi to a fine paste, adding minimal water. Remove and keep aside. Grind the poha first for a minute then add the rice, keep adding water at regular intervals to keep...

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Extreme Brain Workout – A Book Review

While many of us lay a lot of emphasis on physical work-outs and staying fit, we forget that keeping the mind alert and challenged is equally, if not more important. Marcel Danesi’s book titled Extreme Brain Workout provides us with ample scope to exercise those grey cells. I must confess Mr. Danesi has converted a non-believer like me, into a believer. Not only did I thoroughly enjoy solving the puzzles in the book I am also now seeking similar puzzles to workout.   In an e-mail conversation I had with the author – Mr. Marcel Danesi’s, he told me about his family, the influence his mother had on his upbringing and passion for puzzles, the success of his book given the prominence of the internet in our lives, and ofcourse about puzzles. Here below is an extract of the conversation I had with the author.   1. Give us a brief background about yourself. Tell us about your family, educational qualification, and what you currently do. I was born in 1946 in Lucca, Italy and was brought to Toronto by my mother in 1948, as my father had already emigrated here after the war. I was an only child. I married Lucia in 1968 and I am still madly in love with her. We had one daughter, Danila, and from her three grandchildren, Alexander who is 19, Sarah who is...

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The Freedom & Responsibilities

At the stroke of midnight hour, when the world sleeps, India will awake to life and freedom. A moment comes which comes but rarely in history, when we step out from the old to the new, then an age ends, and when the soul of a nation, long suppressed, finds utterance. It is fitting that at this solemn moment we take the pledge of dedication to India and her people and to the still larger cause of humanity. Pandit Jawahar Lal Nehru, independent India’s first Prime Minister gave this historic speech at midnight on August 14, 1947. Today sixty-six years later I wonder what freedom means to us. When this question was thrown open to moms on the Gurgaonmoms Facebook community page, the answers left me thinking, baffled, and some even managed to make me smile. This is a compilation of some of those answers. While some moms wished for financial freedom, and freedom from a certain conservative, stereotypical mindset, Anamica Cannivady wrote, “I need the freedom of cows from the Gurgaon roads. Just about adjusted to the concept of driving with pot holes, cycles, autos, tractors, heavy machinery vehicles….. And now roads seem to be pasture ground for the cow. You are cruising down golf road; last thing I want is a fat cow mooing at me!!!!” Pooja Singh wishes on this Independence Day to find freedom to...

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Three Graces – A Memorable & Glowing Experience

Someone once said” Beauty is only skin deep” … and here at three graces they take this phrase very seriously! Newly launched at Sector 29 TG ( Three Graces) is a clean and sterile yet most  assuredly welcoming place. We are ushered into pristine white interiors which instantly calm and soothe you no matter what the weather outside. We are then offered refreshments and taken into a detailed consultation with the manager in charge .We then meet Dr.Sonal Bansal who is a post graduate in dermatology.She has 6 years of experience. She did a thorough consultation, answered all my  comforts us that no harm can come of any of their treatments. They are extremely stringent on choosing candidates based on skin type and overall health. Three Graces is linked to the renowned Amatrra Spa which is located in Ashoka Hotel Delhi .. a hallmark in itself. Their Service Offerings include: Slimming Centre and Dermatic Cosmetology Skin Enhancement High Speed Light Sheer Duet Permanent Hair reduction Body Sculpting Cellulite Reduction Circumference reduction Slimming Studio Tri Pollar Treatments   I opt for the Gorgeous facial which is a combination of a water based facial using water and serums. It also included dermabrasion and removal of black heads etc. The future is here!! The Gorgeous facial uses technology and takes the art of facials to another level. The face is first prepped and cleansed....

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BB or CC or DD – What’s best for my skin type?

A dash n touch on BB , CC & DD creams.. a lot of us are curious about BB Creams: The buzz behind beauty balms. This versatile skin care/makeup hybrid promises to do the job of five or six other jars and tubes: moisturizer, primer, sunscreen, skin treatment, concealer, and foundation. "The idea of a well-formulated BB cream is that it's the only product you'll need after you wash your face,"  BB creams are short for beauty balms or blemish balms.  The BB Boom..What BB Creams Do? Can one beauty product really do it all? Maybe. When it comes to skin treatment, you can find BB creams that contain: Anti-aging components, including peptides and antioxidants such as vitamins A, E, and C Moisturizing workhorses like hyaluronic acid and glycerin Ingredients such as licorice and arbutin that help even out skin tone Light-reflecting mica to give skin a luminous finish Silicone-based ingredients, such as dimethicone, that help smooth the skin, acting much like a foundation primer does. CC Creams: these are Colour Control, Complexion Corrector or Colour Correction. Like BB creams they boast extensive skincare properties, SPF protection and semi-sheer coverage, but with the added benefit of colour-correcting technology to improve uneven skin tones without a heavy or oily texture. And now get ready for DD creams (sigh). A “Dynamic Do-All” cream and it kinda sounds like a BB/CC hybrid. Originally...

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A “Dimsumptuous” time!

On Friday the 2nd of August a dim sum making workshop and lunch was organized for the Gurgaon Moms group at the Dimsum Bros. restaurant in Ambience Mall. Twenty- four of us eager beavers landed up at this well designed, warm and rather cosy establishment.   Once introductions were over and pleasantries exchanged, we got down to business rather quickly. The staff had done all our prep work and each of us were facing a beautifully arranged plate of all the ingredients we needed for making dim sum. Now I know how those top chefs feel with their sous chefs running around and getting the work done! We were introduced to the owner of the restaurant, Ajay Saini, who described dim sums as little parcels of deliciousness and very clearly stated that momos are a far cry from these Chinese delicacies! Momos are the poor cousins, if you will. So do yourself a favour and never call dim sums, momos. Saying “dumplings” is usually an acceptable alternative! Chefs Michael quickly started rolling out the small balls of white flour dough into mini chappattis. They used a rolling pin very similar to a “dhandiya” stick, to roll out tiny, circle-shaped flour sheets. One of the ladies aptly remarked “We could break into a celebratory dance after we learn how to make dim sums” . Needless to say their speed at...

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Rava Vadai from Ammamma’s [GrandMa] Kitchen

Being home is always special, to add to that if you have two wonderful cooks in your mother and grandmother asking you what you would like for breakfast, lunch, and dinner – you truly are being pampered. On a cloudy Tuesday morning, when the world was busy doing whatever it is it does, my ammama (grandmother) suggested we make Rava vadai. I didn’t need to be asked again. As I mentioned in my previous piece, I have grown up watching my mother and ammama cook, and when I had the opportunity to assist her in making ravavadai I was doubly thrilled. As she was efficiently shredding the coriander leaves, I found myself wishing if only I could be half as good as she is in her cooking. Rava vadai though a popular snack down south isn’t something you find on the menu in restaurants serving South Indian food in Delhi/NCR. So here goes the recipe of RavaVadai, straight from my ammama’s kitchen. Ingredients: Roasted Rava (Semolina) – ½ cup Maida              – 1 ½ cups Onion              – finely chopped Green chillies – 4 or 5 finely chopped Ginger             – 1 tsp finely chopped Coriander leaves – a handful Karipatta leaves – a few leaves  Dry coconut – 2 tsps Ghee    – 1 tbsp Oil       – enough to deep fry Salt to taste Method: In a wide mouthed vessel add...

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Remove Water Stains from the Tiles

Gurgaon faces Hard Water problem. The hard water leaves stains on the floor tiles. Find below some handy tips shared by our members to remove the stubborn stains: Easy of Bang Mokleen Tap and Tiles Make a paste of lime and soda bi carbonate and rub on the effected area. leave it for a few minutes and rub again with some vinegar. The water stains will come off [Ecofriendly Tip] Put harpic with a lil luke warm water. scrub the glass and let it be there for 5 minutes. wash it with water. You would be amazed by the results. Harpic is good but do not forget to wear gloves as it rips your skin off But our in-house expert Geetu Arora observes that easy of bang, harpic are chemicals which will make your tile porus and they will become more prone to attract dust and hard water. The life span of ur tiles decreases too…She urges everyone to shift to ecofriendly products. [Image Courtesy: http://www.familyhandyman.com/] Member Contributions by Kanchan Gupta, Sanju Puri, Geetu Arora, Jyotsna Walia, Namrata Verma...

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