Parenting

Things to know about ‘parenting’

“What it’s like to be a parent: It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love.” – Nicholas Sparks, The Wedding.   News of being pregnant then the joy of having that bundle of love in your arms and then those thoughts of how are you going to handle all the responsibilities that come along with it – feeling stressed, nervous but don’t worry it happens with every new mother.   How much we prepare ourselves for parenting by reading books, articles or even advice from our elders and friends, but honestly, there still remain few things that no one can explain or teach/train us about…..it’s actually “On the job training” and believe me it’s fun all the way !!!   Ø  Be ready to make mistakes but learn from them too: Making mistakes while raising your little one is absolutely fine ‘coz no parent is perfect. We all learn step by step, day by day so don’t let that learning stop.   Ø  Sleepless Nights: You’ll never sleep the same again and those blissful nights will seem like a distant dream. Nah – not for ever but at least for the next 16-18 years of your life, to start with the sleepless nights of babyhood and then to the interrupted sleep once your child starts going to...

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Belonging!

Buying a house is as important, if not more, than having a child, the world seems to think. I have been asked of my intentions of buying a house so many more times than about when I would have a child. In the beginning I was enthusiastic about wanting a house of my own, now a few years into marriage and with one child I don’t see the need to buy one pronto. Infact, I might never see the point at all. Yes, you get a tax break, yes, you have an asset in your name, yes, it is...

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Sacred Saturday Ritual

    My Saturday brunches used to be something to look forward to all week. However hectic the work week was, Saturday was for friends, when I would get up late in the morning, dress up in my latest buy, and reach flavors, or even T.G.I.F. at times to start our spirited three hour tradition of trashing people amidst food, tears, and laughter. I had forgotten all about it after marriage (obviously) but a few days back I reunited with one of my favorite gals who had just shifted back to Gurgaon from New Jersey and was missing her gang of girls and more specifically her Saturday outing. She was actually in tears while talking about it. I was starting to snigger at the ridiculous thought of getting out of the house on a Saturday. Saturdays are the days when the hubby is at home and there is no school for your child and the cook comes late and the weekly visit of the gardener, car cleaner happens! In short, Saturdays are extremely hectic and I was just giving her an earful about all this when I had a flashback. Those carefree days of killing time, moving from one café to another, or just loitering in the mall, checking out people, and forgetting life’s all stupid worries, I got teary eyed too.       There is a reason...

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Open letter to Mothers-In-Law

To, All mothers-in-law, World over.   From, A daughter-in-law   Dear Mothers-in-law, Enough and more has been written and said about mothers-in-law, movies, especially the ones made in India, portray your tribe to be evil, scheming, conniving, and outright deceitful. I would like to think otherwise. You have raised such a wonderful man in your son, so I would like to believe that deep down you are as wonderful as wonderful can be. Change is the only constant. If every mother-in-law remembers this, what a wonderful world it could be out there. Yes, your son was very fond of that dish you used to make for him, but he isn’t its biggest fan today. Yes, your son hated eating that vegetable, but maybe, just maybe he likes the way I make it. Yes, your son loved his bed coffee, but there are other things that occupy his mornings now.  Yes, the middle hair parting suited your son when he was 11 years old, but he is triple that age now, and no, the middle parting is not cool. Yes, your son loved potatoes deep fried and soaking in oil, but the rising cholesterol levels tell a different tale. Yes, your son loved to sleep through his Sundays, but other responsibilities beckon him now. Yes, your son loved the comedy genre of movies, but he also enjoys some heavy duty...

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Extreme Brain Workout – A Book Review

While many of us lay a lot of emphasis on physical work-outs and staying fit, we forget that keeping the mind alert and challenged is equally, if not more important. Marcel Danesi’s book titled Extreme Brain Workout provides us with ample scope to exercise those grey cells. I must confess Mr. Danesi has converted a non-believer like me, into a believer. Not only did I thoroughly enjoy solving the puzzles in the book I am also now seeking similar puzzles to workout.   In an e-mail conversation I had with the author – Mr. Marcel Danesi’s, he told me about his family, the influence his mother had on his upbringing and passion for puzzles, the success of his book given the prominence of the internet in our lives, and ofcourse about puzzles. Here below is an extract of the conversation I had with the author.   1. Give us a brief background about yourself. Tell us about your family, educational qualification, and what you currently do. I was born in 1946 in Lucca, Italy and was brought to Toronto by my mother in 1948, as my father had already emigrated here after the war. I was an only child. I married Lucia in 1968 and I am still madly in love with her. We had one daughter, Danila, and from her three grandchildren, Alexander who is 19, Sarah who is...

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The Freedom & Responsibilities

At the stroke of midnight hour, when the world sleeps, India will awake to life and freedom. A moment comes which comes but rarely in history, when we step out from the old to the new, then an age ends, and when the soul of a nation, long suppressed, finds utterance. It is fitting that at this solemn moment we take the pledge of dedication to India and her people and to the still larger cause of humanity. Pandit Jawahar Lal Nehru, independent India’s first Prime Minister gave this historic speech at midnight on August 14, 1947. Today sixty-six years later I wonder what freedom means to us. When this question was thrown open to moms on the Gurgaonmoms Facebook community page, the answers left me thinking, baffled, and some even managed to make me smile. This is a compilation of some of those answers. While some moms wished for financial freedom, and freedom from a certain conservative, stereotypical mindset, Anamica Cannivady wrote, “I need the freedom of cows from the Gurgaon roads. Just about adjusted to the concept of driving with pot holes, cycles, autos, tractors, heavy machinery vehicles….. And now roads seem to be pasture ground for the cow. You are cruising down golf road; last thing I want is a fat cow mooing at me!!!!” Pooja Singh wishes on this Independence Day to find freedom to...

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